Note: all the names are not real.
I'm Amaka, I met my husband 8 years ago at age 22, he was 46yrs old then. Though he was married, his first wife left him in 2002 after 14yrs of marriage without any issue.
I got married and packed into his duplex located at Ajah. After our marriage, I got pregnant and had twins (2boys). My husband was very happy. 3 years later, I had another set of twin boys. He could not contain his excitement, he told me, "IFEYINWA TNK U FOR SHOWING D WORLD THAT I AM A MAN, I WIL LUV U TILL I DIE" and I replied, "I WIL LUV U TOO TIL DEATH DO US PART'
He later opened a big supermarket for me at lekki. I was devoted and dedicated to my home, we were living in peace until 2 years ago when CHIOMA the first wife came back, i welcomed her and even asked my husband to forgive her. Within 6months our peaceful house turned to something else. CHIOMA's behaviour changed towards me, she started calling me a prostitute, husband snatcher and other unprintable names.
That same month our husband FRANK became sick and his blood pressure became high. CHIOMA started making life unbearable for me, she insisted the house was FRANK and her. He told my husband to rent another house for us but he refused.
In 2011, FRANK lost all he had cos his business partner ran away with all his money, I took over the expenses in the house, he was grateful and he told me, 'IFEYINWA DO U KNOW YOU ARE DIFFERENT FROM OTHER WOMEN, DESPITE MY FINANCIAL STATUS AND AGE GAP U STIL STOOD BY ME. I WILL ALWAYS LUV U" and I told him I would love him for better for worse.
But Chioma wouldn't care. She was never happy with me and my children, she said the house was built when she was living with him then dat i should go with my bastard children. I am 30yrs now, she is 47 while Frank is 54yrs.
I gave Frank N3million to start another business and told him of my plans to rent a house so peace would reign but he refused, he started crying like baby. The next day his BP raised to 320. Everything got so bad, Chioma would threaten to stab me at any slightest provocation. We do the same business but she's not happy about my progress cos I'm miles ahead of her. She has never for one day bought anything in the house, I've been footing the bills.
I went to meet my Pastor and he advised me to quit the marriage because Frank belongs to Chioma.
My Question is...
What will happen to Frank, my 4boys and i? How will i break dis news to him? I love him so much but what about his condition? Chioma hates my children and I and he wants Frank to sell the duplex. Pls advise me, what is my fate? What do I do?
Hmmmmm! Over to you guyz!
well i feel her pastor is right, cos if the first wife isnt properly divorced from frank, then she is as good as a husband snatcher. i feel for her though.....let her go rent her house to save herself and her kids..but let her pack all the valuable documents away from that house cos i guess the first wife only want to lay her hands on any wealth remaining for that man.
ReplyDeleteBTW, im loving the new look your blog is rocking!!! keep it up.
My dear sister, how did you marry your husband? If he didn't divorce his wife then it's like you guys just committed adultery. I understand that your husband needed a child but you're an intruder. My candid advice is to seperate from your husband, don't break the news to him until his health is restored. If he's ok, call him if necessary take him to your Pastor so he'll convince him too. I know how painful this sounds but you just have to do it so you'll be at peace with God. If possible, gather enough money and travel out of the country or stay away from there but make your children available to your husband whenever he wnts to see them. If you insist on staying, the first wife may harm you. Her claims are right and that's why she's using it against you. God sees your efforts in that family. May he reward you abundantly. Pray for his guidance. It is well with you.
ReplyDeleteI don't think leaving is the best solution,I believe in fasten and prayer.Afterall u wr nt d one dat caused their seperatn,she packed out before u came in,so u don't have 2 leave 4 her just be prayerful and God will have his ways.
ReplyDeleteHi Amaka,truthfully Ɣ☺u av married anoda woman's husband buh I guess that is destiny @ work so stay in †ђξ house with Ųя husby until it is sold n pray like neva before. Please make good saving for Ųя kids cos of the future n stay out of her way ßε̲̣ gentle, calm n kind.
ReplyDeleteWIT GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE
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